How to Build Resilience
You are stronger than you think you are
Keeping and setting the dream is different. Keeping it might be hard. You will need mental toughness and resilience. Both are what we need.
But, at first, you have to know why your dream is worth achieving. Because if you don’t understand the strong WHY you won’t have more energy to achieve it. Mental toughness and resilience are related to your strong reason.
As Simon Sinek said, “Start with why.”
As an example, I have a dream to build a school of excellence. I want to create an excellent generation where they focus on their genetic strengths, not weaknesses. I imagine when they have a clear career plan after they graduate from school.
My strong WHY is: I found students who don’t know what to do after graduation. They try to apply for a job, even if the job is not in line with their dream.
That is the reason why I want to achieve my dream. I imagine that one day, every student has a plan before they start studying at school so that they will follow the planning while improving their expertise.
Anyway, I want to apply the craftsman mindset. I not only will teach students but also help them build their future inside my school. I want to help them. Although, I understand it’s not easy to achieve it. But at least, I have had a blueprint of my dream.
Perhaps, my dream is big. That’s why I need mental toughness and resilience.
Someone said we have to hustle. But I want to see it from a different perspective. I know that being hustle is being fast and rushing with what we do. However, we have to live slowly and effectively toward the dream. We need to learn something during the process. We need to digest every life lesson slowly. That’s why rushing is not an option when we pursue something big.
Then, we need mental toughness and resilience to keep us still on the track. And we use it to break the obstacle during the process.
What are mental toughness and resiliences exactly?
Mental toughness is a strong mentality that holds us from the pain of failure. Once you own this mentality, you will be able to survive in many conditions. But the process is not instantaneous. It’s like training our muscles to grow bigger and stronger.
Resilience is the act of bouncing back. Having mental toughness is not enough because we have to act on it. And resiliency is an act that helps us to get up from setbacks, then move forward.
Let me share with you tips on how to strengthen your mental toughness. It is according to the BBC ideas channel.
1. Understand that suffering is a part of life.
Understand that everything happens for a reason. We won’t always accept good things. We also might feel suffering toward something. It is a part of life. But keep in mind that when you are suffering, you train yourself to be mentally tough.
2. Tune in to the good
We are easily distracted by bad things like a bad news report, bad feelings, bad experiences, etc. Those bad things will not provide us a positive impact. Instead of focusing on it, it’s better to focus on good things, good moments, and good vibes. Tune in to the good.
3. Ask yourself, is this helping or harming me?
We need to accept our conditions and weaknesses. It doesn’t matter to ask for help and support from other people because the most supportive relationship helps us strengthen mental toughness.
Keeping our dream is not always easy. We will face many challenges, obstacles, failures, or even pains during the process. The main point is knowing the why of your dream and having mental toughness and resilience.
Don’t forget to understand that suffering is a part of life. Just try to tune in to the good. Then ask yourself whether the condition is helping or harming you. If you need help, consider finding a supportive relationship around you.
Remember this sentence: You are stronger than you think you are.